In a patriarchal society like South Africa, men are frequently portrayed as strong, invincible and powerful. However, high rates of male-driven violence suggest that men may be struggling with negative emotions. Chronic absence of fathers brought on by migrant labour practices, substance abuse and unemployment, among others, cause some men to resort to violence as a coping mechanism. In this book the author, a clinical psychologist, reflects on her psychotherapy experiences with male clients as she debunks the myth of male alexithymia, the inability to recognise and express emotions. Men are apparently disengaged from wellness practices as they are perceived to be reluctant to seek mental health care. An ubuntu-inspired personhood discourse of trust, empathy and transformation theoretically underpins the author's clinical practice. Men's group participants risk being vulnerable as they support each other's suffering during story telling of abuse, loss and abandonment. The integration of the culturally familiar philosophy of ubuntu challenges the hegemony of strictly modern Western psychological discourses and theories. The latter have not always been uncritically accepted in the African context, even though she, like most of her mental health colleagues, largely draws on Euro-American psychological theories and practices. Although the book is not a manual for how to do therapy with men, neither a panacea for all male related challenges, it can ignite empathic insights and kindle gender sensitive responses to male concerns, locally and internationally. Women, who are frequently the targets of gender-based violence primarily committed by men, may play a significant role in the rehabilitation and healing of men. Men are usually excluded from psychosocial interventions, but this book makes the case that prioritsing the wellbeing of boys and men is critical to creating a society that is safe for everyone-men, women, children, and the broader public.